Valentine's Day is coming up, and if you're dating someone but not "officially" yet, welcome to the most confusing relationship limbo of all time.  I know this space very well.  I've been there more than once.  And honestly?  I might be there right now.

So if that's you too, consider this your safe space.  This is the stage where you like each other, you text everybody, you've probably met friends, but no one has said the words yet.  And suddenly Valentine's Day shows up like, "so... what are we?"

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Too much effort feels intense.  Not enough effort feels rude.  It's a delicate balance, okay?  That's why Rockford is the actually kinda perfect for this phase of dating.  You can keep things low-pressure without making it awkward.  Think coffee dates, bowling, and some Uncle Nick's to end the night.  Sorry, just me planning my next date night lol.

Here are some other options for unofficial relationships:

• Stroll at Sinnissippi (even though the holiday lights are done!)
• Order takeout from a delicious local restaurant
• Arcade date night at Quarter World or Tilted 10
• Coffee date at a local coffee shop
• Catch a movie at AMC 16, 14, or Beloit Cinema with heated seats

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Honestly, one of my favorite Valentine's Day must-do's?  Going to McDonald's and getting the big box of chocolate chip cookies.  Even though I won't eat all of them, they look so cute on a plate with candles lit around them.  Don't hate it until you try it!